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Mom, a blogger, a girl who was not afraid to move from a small town to Moscow, Kristina Dudkova (@kristitheone) told BeautyHack about her philosophy and principles. Spoiler alert: an article can change your life!
Christina Dudkova
Blogger, mother of three kids
“Life is a very changeable thing. There is no certainty, no guarantees, no constancy in it. Everything around is in a state of flux: people, feelings, places, nature. And while for some, change is completely natural, for others it becomes stress and phobia. Trying to maintain their comfort zone, people do not even 50% use the opportunities that life gives them. And I think this is a big mistake. You need to be open to changes, because they fulfill the function of social evolution, forcing you to move forward. I have compiled 7 rules for you that will help you get used to changes and adapt to the endless stream of life changes. The main thing is not to be afraid and "dive" with your head."
Life means change and change means life
Most of us hold the belief that "change" is not good, it is inconvenient and potentially painful. This is partly true: change really does bring discomfort.
The first exit from our comfort zone happens when we are born and separated from the mother's body. This is a big change that leaves a mark in the subconscious for a lifetime, as well as an association with separation and rupture. It is for this reason that most people choose to leave things as they are. Their principle is: less stress - more benefit.
My basic rule: life is change, and change is life. You shouldn't consider them as punishment. Change your approach. See change as an opportunity to improve, learn new things, and open another door.
Accept the situation, but don't put up with it
Accepting the situation you are in right now is the first step to embracing change. But “accept” doesn't mean “accept” and behave like a victim of circumstances. Yes, it takes courage, determination and honesty. First of all with yourself. It is important to realize here: even if it is difficult now, tomorrow it will be easier. Sooner or later, the "lesson" will end. But what benefit you will derive from it - decide for yourself.
See failure positively
The most merciless "killer" of our dreams is the fear of failure and failure. Very often it seems to us that the only way to avoid this is to do nothing and continue living as a spectator, and not as a protagonist.
It's okay to make mistakes. This is part of the learning process. When we make mistakes, we improve. Remember how many times your child fell before he learned to walk. And yet he was successful. Do not forget about this when the next changes knock on the door. Freed from emotional baggage, transformation will not be long in coming.
Remember, people who manage to achieve their dreams despite all chances of success are those who don't worry about failure.
Celebrate every little success
Our psyche is very flexible: it quickly "catches" and "destroys" things that are difficult for us. And that limits progress! But against this there is one 100% "medicine" - a holiday. By celebrating even small victories every day, we maintain a high level of motivation. Try the following exercise. Write down at least one thing in your journal every day that you consider a small or big success. Perhaps you cooked something delicious, helped a stranger, or listened to a friend. Then find an opportunity to celebrate your success. Be creative and everything will work out!
Be responsible
We cannot change the life circumstances and behavior of others. But we can change our actions and attitude towards the outside world. This is what growth over oneself consists in. Don't look to blame. Take responsibility for what is happening in your life, on yourself.
Being responsible means regaining your ability to react to events and develop.
be patient
Sometimes we have to repeat a lesson over and over again in order to pass the exam that life confronts us. It takes patience. This is a very simple formula. Impatience is a reaction. Patience is the answer. Growth and Change - Evolution. I like to think of patience as a muscle that needs to be trained every day.
Step outside your comfort zone
The “comfort zone” is the mental space where we find refuge, where we have the illusion of a sense of security and safety. Getting out of it requires letting go of the fear of radical change. You can start with small token gestures that will disable the internal autopilot mechanism. Change the route you take to work, change the place where you usually sit at the dinner table, learn a new language, become a vegetarian for a month, or take up new hobbies. These are just a few ideas that break habits and automatic responses and expand horizons.
