Actor and creator of his own perfume brand, Sergei Gubanov, explained why strictness is important in raising girls, and told how he first met his daughter's young man.
About early experiences of fatherhood
When the eldest Karina was born, I was 19 years old. This is very early for the modern generation. But then times were completely different, there was uncertainty in the air, everyone lived in one day, they wanted to have time to do everything in a short time.
Of course, I don't regret becoming a father at such an early age. When you hold this little lump that sniffs and smells like milk, you feel a huge responsibility and understand that you are ready for anything for the sake of the child.
About the birth of the youngest daughter Katya
Karina is 16 years older than Katya, Angelina is 10. The girls were waiting for her very much. We watched with interest how the baby grows and develops … With such a difference in age, girls have different problems, and our parents have different tasks of raising them. Karina had her first friend, Angelina began her adolescence, searching for herself, and for Katyusha, she needed a round-the-clock run. I had to learn how to switch from task to task at lightning speed. Katya is now four, she is a developed, talented girl and very curious for her age.
The interests of children
They are completely different for girls. Karina followed in my footsteps and is now studying at the theater institute. Our middle daughter Angelina has been dancing and drawing since childhood, and at the age of 12 she announced that she wanted to go canoeing. The section ended up at the Olympic Reserve School. Everything is grown up! She began to train and last year she became the champion of Moscow among juniors, and this year the champion of Russia. She has practically no time for her personal life. That fees, then classes at school, then tutors. Therefore, even when we try to go on vacation in the summer, we have to adapt to Angelina's schedule. This year we managed to get together only at the beginning of the school year. Angelina joked that she spends most of her time on the boat and just wants to lie on the beach, so we went to the sea for a week.
And the younger Katya loves to collect constructors.
About the first meeting with the young man of Karina's eldest daughter
Of course, jealousy could not be avoided. She is a fine fellow, a very tactful girl, she prepared us for this meeting for a long time, told us that she had a friend, then suddenly said: "Can he come to visit us?" We looked at each other and, of course, agreed. Karina was then 16 years old (now she is 21). During dinner, he tried to please, talked about what he wants to do. At first it seemed to me that he lacked responsibility, but we supported the choice of his daughter. Over time, Vlad made me very happy, I was surprised that at such an age a young man can have so much seriousness.
About rigor in raising girls
I love my daughters very much, and because of this I can be very strict and demanding. It is clear that I do not want to harm them, but I understand that discipline is very important in life. The result of such upbringing has borne fruit. Karina is now finishing the 4th year of the institute with excellent results, and I have already told you about Angelina's successes.
I have always wanted girls to take responsibility for their actions and words. For example, I told Angelina: “If you decide to row, be prepared for the fact that the first time will be difficult. To start training, you need to buy a boat - it costs money. That is, if you decide to quit in a month, the boat will remain with us. " And so it happened. A couple of months after the start of classes, Angelina said that it was not hers, it was hard for her. But we talked and I explained that we need to continue. With such small steps, we bring up the strength of the spirit.
About parenting teenagers
The main challenge is earning the child's trust. If it is undermined, you will not do anything. The street will bring up the child. My older daughters have an age difference of five years, so when Karina had already gone through the difficulties of growing up, Angelina had just begun. But the girls raised each other. Karina always gave advice, said how not to do it, because she herself had already stumbled.
I believe that a man should bring up thriftiness, sincerity and responsiveness in girls.
It's nice when daughters try to cook a delicious breakfast for us. My mom taught them how to make curd cake. They practiced for a long time to get the right consistency. This dish has become a small family tradition. We also make dumplings with the whole family. This activity is very unifying!
About joint shopping
We don't go shopping together. The girls are taught that there should not be a lot of clothes. They also know that it is possible to put together a stylish wardrobe for every day and for little money.
I often go on business trips, and we have a well-functioning scheme. Knowing that I'm going to London, girls find what they want on the Internet, I go to Primark and buy it. It's a whole ritual for them!
The most pleasant moment of fatherhood
I remember how Angelina trained for a long time before the competition for the Moscow championship and, of course, she needed support. I had a busy filming schedule, and I had to tearfully ask the agent to let me go to the races. I came to every race. And when she announced that she had become the champion of Moscow, it was very joyful and exciting! At such moments, you understand that victory is also your merit, the result of constant work and education. It's incredibly enjoyable!
Text: Julia Kozoliy