A word can kill, a word can be thankful! Editor Natalia Kapitsa about what phrases she has removed from the lexicon forever.
I will try to
According to a sociological survey, 90% of people perceive this phrase as a promise. If you fail to help, you will earn a minus in karma and resentment for the rest of your life, even though you really tried. It is better to avoid this phrase, or immediately explain the situation that it does not mean 100% "yes" by asking him to come up with a plan B.
Just do not be offended
By pronouncing this phrase, you subconsciously set up the interlocutor that the words may be offensive or unpleasant for him. Even if this is not the case, unpleasant feelings and increased cortisol will remain. If you are going to say something "bitter", talk about the situation without getting personal, explaining this to the interlocutor.
Nobody does this at all
"Nobody" is who? In dialogue, such judgments should be avoided, as well as the words and phrases "majority", "but in another organization", "but at Masha." You cannot even be 100% sure that everyone on our planet loves the sun. In a dialogue, you should always speak only for yourself. If someone wants to speak up, they will do it without your help.
Go here
A phrase with a negative psychological connotation. After it, the person will approach you with a belligerent attitude - it is perceived as an order. Try to avoid the imperative mood in speech. Each request should always be completed with the word "please" and spread according to tone and intonation. Try to shift this phrase onto yourself. Do you like it? Then what is the probability that others will like her.
I haven't done anything special
This phrase can often be heard from people with low self-esteem, suffering from the "impostor" syndrome. They do not recognize their outstanding abilities, despite the fact that they are more likely to be. The phrase "I didn't do anything special" devalues your contribution in the eyes of others. Get rid of it urgently!
