How To Celebrate The New Year With A Handsome Man (and Is It Worth It)?

New Year is a time when you want to bring something big and beautiful into your house. Romantic girls buy a Christmas tree, household girls buy a leg of lamb, and the most practical ones think about how to lure a handsome man. How to do it and do you need it? Read in a new article by the writer Martha Ketro.

New Year is a time when you want to bring something big and beautiful into your house. Romantic girls buy a Christmas tree, household girls buy a leg of lamb, and the most practical ones think about how to lure a handsome man - he will decorate the apartment with himself, bring food, and a Christmas tree.

The mental organization of a handsome man differs from the inner world of an ordinary man in about the same way as the psyche of a greyhound is from the psyche of a mongrel dog. All this subtlety, nervousness and resentment does not come from a lack of will, it's just that their life is an order of magnitude more complicated than it seems to us.

Handsome is under the gun all the time, people shamelessly discuss his appearance since childhood, but not always in a positive way. If a beautiful girl does not cause any complaints, then a pretty boy is quickly suspected: probably a narcissistic type, perhaps stupid, too sweet for a real man, and are you not gay, dear man? Aggressive guys strive to ruin its elegant facade, girls do not trust, colleagues consider it frivolous. The truth is that in a world where a man is supposed to be a little prettier than a monkey, youthful beauty is a challenge, it is embarrassing, and those around them protect themselves from it with the help of irony (at its best, peaceful version). It's kind of stupid to be speechless and stare, so we release mocking, devaluating comments before we can think.

Hence the first rule of dealing with a handsome man - talk to him like a normal person. This is difficult, I know, but it will be beneficial to distinguish you from giggling, fading and daring girls. A communication strategy suitable for ordinary men - to be silent, smile, show a shoulder - will not work here. He himself has a smile and a shoulder no worse, and life has taught him to be active women. Therefore, you do not need to attack, but you have to talk.

Talk to him about interesting and difficult things. Don't give in to stereotypes and suspect all beautiful people of stupidity - some of them still know how to think. Let your conversation go beyond small talk, but does not touch the sphere of relationships, it is better to discuss abstract things, this will immediately set you apart from the crowd. True, first you need to scout out his area of ​​interest, and not just Twitter about what interests you.

Treat him with respect. This is exactly what the world does not give handsome men. Admiration and acceptance is as much as necessary, but the recognition of the mind, masculinity and value of his opinion is usually not enough.

Therefore, you do not need to say that he is beautiful and you like terribly - say that he is an incredibly interesting and deep person, praise his sense of humor and accuracy of thinking. If he is not stupid, then you will always find a reason for such a compliment, and if he doesn’t come out intellectually, then the reason is not needed, he will easily believe it anyway.

Talk to him about his childhood and relationships with parents, this will create the illusion that you are interested in his subtle soul, and not at all a beautiful body. Somehow it turns out that handsome men are rather lonely creatures. Men fight with them, women break hearts about them, and calm, safe intimacy is established only with rare people. Try to make friends with him without getting involved in a gender battle from the doorway, and you will not lose. At the very least, get a friend who pleases the eye, and at the most, seduce along the way.

And don't be afraid to invite him over on a Friday night or holiday. There is a stereotype that beautiful people are terribly in demand, their calendar is scheduled every minute, in the evenings they are busy with social life, and on New Year's Day they probably dance at the ball in a half mask. Everyone is so sure of this that they do not include the handsome man in their plans, and he often spends weekends under a blanket, and on New Year's Eve he goes to his parents, eat his mother's Olivier and talk with dad about summer cottage affairs. So take a chance. No, he doesn't need to ring every week, but now is the time to try.

Write and invite the most handsome man you know - no, not on a date, but just spend an evening together. Come up with an idea, for example, decorate a Christmas tree together, bake pies or celebrate the New Year somewhere in the open air under a pine tree.

And make a snowman (as in that joke - "you will forget me, but the snowman is unlikely"). Return to him, and at the same time to yourself, this feeling of a child's adventure, friendly communication, free from aggression and mutual use.

Well, then, of course, you can grab, conquer and drag, but you can also leave it as it is - so that in the radiance of the New Year tree you can simply admire the most beautiful face in the world and mentally make a wish.

Text: Marta Ketro