While the Instagram feed called for activity and self-education in quarantine, the parents of schoolchildren only grinned: go find all this time if you have Zoom lessons, cleaning, cooking and work that has not been canceled on your schedule.
Here, the blogger and mother of eight-year-old Katya Dolgorukova tells how, not without difficulties, she changed to online education with her daughter and what the school is doing to make everyday life easier for children, and here BeautyHack founder Margarita Lieva and stylist Katya Gusse share their rules of life with schoolchildren in isolation … Everyone has the same verdict - there is no way without regime and planning.
But what if the child cannot sit still, is distracted and does not concentrate on the lessons? How not to get lost, take a sensible look at the situation and find an approach? BeautyHack asked two specialists to answer these questions - Maria Piotrovskaya, founder of the Association of Parents and Children with Dyslexia, and Irina Lukyanova, a teacher, journalist, and administrator of the Our Inattentive Hyperactive Children forum.
At the Parents and Children with Dyslexia Association, Maria and other professionals work with children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Namely, ADHD is a common cause of the very “restlessness and inability to concentrate, which so worries many parents.
How often do we scold our kids for being too noisy, restless, do not hear our calls to stop and sit quietly, are restless or inattentive. And, despite the fact that the Association of Parents and Children with Dyslexia does not directly deal with ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), all our specialists know that this is a "related" problem to us. Children with dyslexia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia often suffer from attention deficit disorder.
Create the most comfortable environment for your child
From my personal observation, I can say that the main thing that such children need is attention and patience. Adults must compensate for the lack of this resource in their children with their own concentration of strength and calmness. It is useful to observe the child when he is doing something, sitting down to read or studying the lessons and see what moments he focuses best, what helps him. Do not scold or curse him, but observe.
So, for you, you may refuse by the discovery that it is precisely by moving, doing something, drawing or drawing, the child remembers and learns everything better. In addition, the environment, the environment in which the child is engaged, plays an important role. Try to make sure that no distracting sounds interfere with your homework, give the tasks themselves in small parts, in turn, and not three tasks at once.
teacher, journalist, administrator of the forum "Our Inattentive Hyperactive Children"
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder is a medically conditioned condition in which a child cannot control his activities, does not control his attention or his feelings. He is unable to independently hold attention to an object that does not attract him on purpose (brightness, sounds, flickering). Such children easily "stick" on a TV or computer - their attention is held by a bright picture, but at the same time it is difficult for them to concentrate on a paragraph in a textbook or solving a problem. They do not control their reactions, therefore, as a rule, they act impulsively, on the first impulse. Their body is not able to slow down, give them a pause to think about the reaction, so the reaction turns out to be immediate and often stupid. It makes no sense to ask such children: “What did you think,when did you do it? " or "Why did you ruin this thing?" - they usually don't have an answer.
Clear and understandable daily routine
Additionally, children with ADHD tend to be aimlessly active. It should not be confused with ordinary children's cognitive activity, the purpose of which is to understand the world better. The whole point of hyperactivity is to provide yourself with the most pleasant pastime right now: more bright colors, tasty and unusual food, sweets, impressions, events, sensations. The paradox is that children are very tired of all this, overexcited and often hysteria follows such a nervous overload.
The salvation from this chaos is an orderly, predictable, measured life, an abundance of algorithms, clear and strictly followed rules, a clear daily routine.
Stay close to your child during class
Of course, it is very difficult for such children to do their homework. And they also have a difficult time in distance learning. Therefore, if the child does not cope with distance lessons, is distracted, the parents' help may be to get the lesson materials from the teacher, highlight the most important things in them and make sure that the child did not leave in particular, but took out the lesson and wrote down the main things.
If the parents have the opportunity to be there, it makes sense to monitor when the child begins to be distracted and give him a chance to rest: losing part of the lesson is better than the whole lesson. It would be nice to give him the opportunity to move: walk around the room when he is listening to a lesson, swing in a rocking chair, balance on a fitball, hold a soft toy (silicone or stuffed with cereals) in his hands.
In conditions of self-isolation, it is very difficult to structure a child's day, however, for a hyperactive child it is vitally important to introduce physical activity into the daily routine (dancing, yoga, gymnastics to videos from YouTube), while eliminating overexcitation.
Divide large tasks into smaller parts and praise the child for each
How to do self-isolation lessons is a separate big question. It might make sense to reduce their number altogether if you see them turning into torture for the whole family.
A lot of work needs to be divided into small pieces and done one by one, rewarding the child with some pleasant trifle for each part of the work done and not letting him get overexcited. It is important to remember that the role of the parent in this situation is that of a kind helper, not an evil overseer. It is also important to ensure that the child rests on time and returns to work on time after a period of rest. By organizing the process in this way and making sure that the system works, you can begin to gradually transfer homework control to your child.
What to read and watch on this topic:
The book “Extreme motherhood. Happy life with a difficult child "by Irina Lukyanova
Webinars "How to help a child with ADHD at school" on the platform of the Association of Parents and Children with Dyslexia