The Story Of The Lapenko Family: How 16 Brothers And Sisters Live Together And Happily, Lapenko's Video With Dud

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The Story Of The Lapenko Family: How 16 Brothers And Sisters Live Together And Happily, Lapenko's Video With Dud
The Story Of The Lapenko Family: How 16 Brothers And Sisters Live Together And Happily, Lapenko's Video With Dud
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For some reason, it is customary to feel sorry for large families. It is believed that neither parental resources nor attention can be enough for everyone. But what if these are all far-fetched attitudes? What if love in a family grows in direct proportion to the number of children and can become a support and shield in life? Here's a real example for you that this is not a utopia: our first-person story of what it is like to grow up in a family where you are one for everyone, and all 16 are for you.

By the way, when this material was already ready for publication, another issue of Yuri Dud was released on YouTube with actor Anton Lapenko, another member of this incredible family, brother of our author Vera. Her word.

avatar Vera Lapenko
avatar Vera Lapenko

Vera Lapenko

- My name is Vera, and I am the 12th child in the family. And in total, our mother has 16 children, 4 girls and 12 boys. Amazing, huh? It was only with age that I began to realize what family I was born into, and as a child I could not understand why the neighbors looked at us with such a mixture of surprise and horror when we all went to school together, in a friendly company. Imagine a picture: in the morning a noisy crowd of children, similar to each other, falls out of the entrance, the elders take the younger by the hands and stomp about their business.

I remember my mother told me when she and dad were walking with the youngest children (we always had “younger” and “youngest” children in our family), strangers approached them and asked:

- Are these all your children?

To which dad replied:

- No, not all, still at home.

I wasn’t there yet, but I can easily imagine the expression on the face of this curious person, because even now I often see it on the faces of people who have learned about my family. I know from experience that this news raises almost the same questions.

- Are you all from the same dad and mom?

Yes.

- Do you have twins / twins?

No, everyone's mother gave birth separately.

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This is the only photo in Lapenko's archive where they are in full force

- Who do you look like more and more? For mom or dad?

We all have brown eyes, just like Mom, despite the fact that Dad had blue eyes. When people see us, they say that we are the same person, and confuse us at first. It's easier with girls - there are only four of us, but the situation with brothers is more complicated.

- Did the parents plan for such a number of children?

No, my parents did not expect it to be like this. Mom wanted to stay with the sixth child, but dad decided otherwise. He really loved children. I remember when he came home from work and no matter how tired he was, the first thing he did was to play with us. Mom took the biggest plate for Dad, put food there to the brim, knowing in advance that he would share his dinner with us, or even say: "Mom does not feed you at all while I am at work." And for us it is funny, fun and especially delicious to eat from Dad's plate, despite the fact that we just had a hearty dinner.

Hence another popular question:

- How did mom cook food for such a crowd?

The volumes of my mother's dishes corresponded to those of humans - no cauldrons and bags with food. Everything is like ordinary people.

- How did mom deal with all of you?

This is not to say that it was easy. We all grew up with the understanding that we need to help each other, especially our mother, because there are many of us, and she is alone. If the mother is resting with the baby (as we called the youngest) or feeding him, then we do not make noise, and if one of us is forgotten, we remind you that you need to be quiet.

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And so in everything - you grow, knowing that you are not alone and you need to be able to share, give in, help, understand, support each other.

Once Mom and Dad were interviewed on a well-known program at one time, and by the end of the interview, the studio received a call from a woman who was vacationing with her family on the sea, where we were at the same time. She was struck by our relationship, the level of upbringing, and she asked her mother how she managed to bring up the children like that. My mother's answer was: "You need to be bolder and give the children more independence, not too much to take care of them." And I absolutely agree with her on this.

This is not the only time that media representatives have contacted our family. With some periodicity, journalists came to visit us, and these days we all tried to think of things to do or hide in rooms. We lived as usual, like everyone else, and did not understand why there was such an interest in our family. These people asked strange questions: "How do you eat?", "Do you remember the names of all brothers and sisters by heart?", "How do you live in such a family?" … Then I did not realize the reason for this curiosity.

With age, I began to understand what my parents had done - what a feat my mother did, what a huge responsibility my dad took upon himself. And for this I am grateful to them for the rest of my life. After all, I have so many truly close and beloved people, whose support and understanding is felt almost physically.

- Do I want to create the same family myself? - they ask me.

To have so many children and give them what our parents gave us, you need good health, nerves of steel and extraordinary love between a man and a woman, sealed by deep trust and understanding. My answer: yes, I want a big family, but this decision does not depend only on me.

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When asked how she decided on such a number of children, my mother always answers: “If I had another husband, I would never have given birth to so many children. I saw how he loves them all, what happiness they bring him. Therefore, everything turned out the way it happened. If I were given the opportunity to choose how to live my life, I would have lived it this way, not otherwise."

This year, the number of children and grandchildren of the mother was equal - the 16th was born in the summer. Once for a joke, we decided to calculate how many grandchildren a mother would have if each of us had at least 10 children. Yes, the arithmetic is simple, but the figure is impressive - 160 grandchildren. Can you imagine this? I have a hard time, because already now it is becoming difficult to cover everyone with my attention, and in order not to forget to wish everyone a happy birthday, I have to set a reminder.

There are interesting patterns in our family, for example, the order in which we were born: the first is an older sister, followed by four brothers, then again a sister and then four brothers again, after me, and also, according to the already understandable logic, should there were four boys, but despite the fact that on the 16th we were all waiting with full confidence for Vasily, Vasilisa was born, choosing for birth the same day and the same time at which the older sister was born. “So the circle is closed,” says my mother. There is something mystical in this story.

Over time, our family has split into two parts: the older (the first eight children) and the younger (the other eight), and we are very different from each other. The former are hardworking family men, the latter are creative adventurers. Perhaps it happened because the elders went to work early to help dad and family. The younger ones were given a lot of freedom. By the way, I am a freediver and a novice copywriter, from the second half, in which there is still a talented self-taught photographer, actor, artist, musician … Mom says that all the talents that she herself could not reveal were passed on to her children, for which we, in turn, grateful to her.

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Now we are all grown up, the younger sister is already 20 years old. And every time we get together in honor of some holiday, my mother looks at us, at how we communicate, how we are friends, how we sing and dance together, and does not believe her eyes - all these people, so different and similar at the same time, interesting and talented, serious and not very, loud and quiet, she gave birth. And he regrets only one thing: that dad does not see us - he has not been with us for more than 15 years.

Life in such a family is not easy, but, despite all its difficulties, it is filled with bright moments of happiness. Ask me what kind of life I would choose if I had such an opportunity, and I will not let you finish, I will interrupt and say: only this. I am a happy child with 12 siblings, 3 beloved sisters and a precious mother. What more could I ask for?

Text: Vera Lapenko

From the editor

As I read this story, I confess I cried. I tried to answer the question to myself: why? Probably, we often say how hard it is for us to be parents, that we need to work on family relationships, that we need to cope with one child. We have some kind of deficit of unconditional warmth, we do not allow it ourselves, all the time overcoming something. And this whole text is about something so real, important, important, and inside this important is recognized and responded.

When Vera and I were discussing the last clarifications to the text, she suddenly asked me:

- Have you watched my brother's interview with Dud? He said there that power is in love: love for relatives, and life, and everything. We all think so.

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