There is a strong emotional connection between the expectant mother and her baby - this is well known. But studies have appeared confirming that the condition of a woman during pregnancy then affects the behavior and even the fate of the child.
The BeautyHack editors asked Natalia Braga to explain this phenomenon of perinatal psychologist and psychosomatics specialist.
Natalia Braga
perinatal psychologist and psychosomatics specialist
- The baby, being in the womb, is inextricably linked with her by the umbilical cord. He does not separate himself from the world around him. The child's feelings can be described as “I am the world,” that is, he is both a cause and an effect to everything. And according to this principle, our brain continues to operate for the rest of its life: for it there are no other people, for it there is only a body. And he can solve all the emotional problems that arise only through the body - as a result of which many psychosomatic diseases arise. Based on these facts, we can say with confidence that the thoughts and state of a woman during pregnancy are really transmitted to her child, and also affect his life, explains Natalia.
Fetal reaction to mom's emotions
If, for example, a mother has doubts about her pregnancy, the fetus receives a life-threatening signal. It doesn't matter at what stage of his development he is now - even if his brain has not yet begun to develop. We know that every cell in our body contains information about the entire body. By the same principle, the first cells of a new person perceive information about the external environment.
If a woman worries about whether everything is fine with her child, feels an urgent need for his constant movements, then the baby remembers the information "I need to move to show that I am alive." And then the parents wonder why their child is hyperactive.
If the expectant mother is experiencing a lack of attention, then her baby then, quite possibly, will adhere to the same scenario. Will do everything to be talked about. Hence the whims, and demonstrative behavior, and difficulties in education.
Emotions as a standard that determines the fate of a child
Another important aspect of the intrauterine state is that the baby remembers it as a reference. The womb for us is a kind of metaphor for paradise. And if tears are constantly flowing in this paradise and fear, excitement and loneliness are felt, then such a state will become a reference for a person. He will subconsciously strive for it for the rest of his life. If, during pregnancy, the mother radiates calmness and confidence that everything will be fine, then this very attitude will be decisive for a person.
This mechanism is explained by a special property of our brain - its desire to stay in familiar circumstances and feelings. This explains the fact why most people throughout their lives repeat events that are similar in their emotional content. If you write down the important moments of your life by years, you will definitely notice such coincidences. Moreover, the events will be repeated at regular intervals (plus or minus several months). And there is no mysticism, karma or curse. It's just your brain's work.
In order to break this vicious circle, you should ask your mother what emotions she experienced when she was pregnant with you, what events happened to her. It is quite possible that her answers will help solve this important problem for you.
No need to blame yourself
When mothers learn about the impact of emotions on the life and condition of the child, they often begin to blame themselves for the negative experience they experienced during pregnancy. Don't do that. Guilt is an ineffective feeling, it does not help solve the problem, but only exacerbates it.
Remember, it’s impossible to know in advance exactly how emotions will affect a particular child. Each baby is unique. Someone in two months calmly experiences a two-hour absence of a mother, but for someone her departure to another room for a couple of minutes can become a psychological trauma.
And finally, there are no fatal situations - as long as there is life. The main thing is to ask yourself the right question: "How can I solve this?"
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