BeautyHack columnist Anna Miller recently became the mother of the adorable baby Zoya and is now sharing her discoveries in a new role - as always, incomparably and witty.
Anna Miller
Journalist, children's writer
When you transfer a freshly pumped and asleep child from your hands to the bed, he immediately wakes up. And shifting turns into sappers training. Minefield, two wires - blue and red. There is no second chance. There is no right for a wrong step or awkward movement.
How do they do it? Do they have a built-in chip? Reacts to adrenaline fear in the mother's blood?
Zoya in her arms can sleep in any, the most uncomfortable position. It will fold with the letter Z, it will bend with a pretzel, I walk with it, shake it, turn it over, almost drop it and catch it. I can put something on it, forgetting myself. She sleeps, sagging and softened. It scatters handles, dangles legs, spreads wide and freely.
But as soon as I take a step to the crib, let go of my hand, hang over its cradle … Zoya instantly shrinks and makes her lips “offended”. All the same, you put it in bed - your eyes open wide and looks with ardent curiosity: well, what, shall we tuse?
With Masha - she is my eldest, she is 14 - in case I really need it, I had a worked out scheme of shifting: put it on, but you don't take your hands away, but hold and release one finger at a time, repeating persistently and imploring chi-chi-chi …
But children sense betrayal.
They are hunting for warmth, security and belly to belly. They can be understood. Have you given birth to go to bed? Not fair. Worn in the belly, now wear it on the belly.
There are pediatricians who say: “Don’t train your hands! Vooot, already taught. Now he will sit on his neck, will thread ropes from his mother. Crying? Nothing! She will cry and understand that they will not take it!"
Well, my favorite: pooret - get tired and fall asleep.
Yes, the stump is clear, the child was born to understand that they would not take it in his arms, do not wait for tenderness, do it yourself, otherwise you see! Someone's mother should carry you in her arms?
Are you yelling? Ori-ori! It's not easy to fool me! Can't break me! I'll bring you up right now, for two weeks, I'll show you that life is not sugar!
Masha was sleeping in my arms. Everyone scolded me.
And a young pediatrician came and said: “The first month after birth is like the tenth month of pregnancy. Belly to belly, heart to heart. Wear it! " And I wore.
And I wear Zoya. And I get incredible pleasure from it. She will grow up and will be separate, and now I'm sniffing and hugging, ironing her plump arms and legs, whispering tenderness to her.
Let him sit on her neck, let her twist the ropes, if she needs parents to relax, if she needs warmth to sleep soundly. Let her life be a thrill, not a drill. For this we are here, next to her.
PS Remember how Joe and Ross (that's Friends) got together to sleep on each other's chest? Well! They also wanted human warmth.
