Children are our continuation, every child has an imprint of the individuality of his parents. If you increasingly began to think about children, this does not mean readiness for motherhood. According to astropsychologist Elvira Dubina, what are the signs to check your, at first glance, conscious decision to become a mother?
1. A stable relationship in a couple
The child must have both parents. I will reveal this simple truth from the perspective of astrology. There are two luminaries in the natal chart: the Moon personifies the mother, the Sun - the father. These are two supports, two legs, to stand firmly on the ground. It is at least selfish to deprive a child of one of them. Giving birth “for herself,” as it is now fashionable, a woman deprives the child of the Sun. The sun personifies the father and the male principle - self-confidence and social strength for the realization of the future baby depend on the male contribution to education. Children who grow up without a father grow up to a greater extent lost and have difficulties with self-identification in the future.
If self-esteem and self-love depend on the Sun, then the emotional sphere and perception depend on the Moon (the influence of the mother). The relationship with the mother depends on what kind of prism, with what eyes the child will look at the world, whether this world will seem kind and comfortable to him, or hostile and uncomfortable.
Both parents are important, without either of them there is an imbalance in the psyche. When mom replaces everyone, imbalance occurs. In astrology, such people are called "Lunarians". Why? Because the Moon, as you know, has no orbit, it is always dependent on someone else's trajectory. Children who have grown up without a father feel inner loss and seek outward support in life, without an inner core.
2. Lack of hidden motivations
Becoming a parent is freedom of choice, do not deprive her of a partner. Both parents should internally approach this step without external pressure and sincerely want the child. There should not be any hidden motivations behind this desire (to keep a man, to please his wife, to receive maternity capital, "so that a glass of water in old age"). In order for your baby to grow up as a happy and full-fledged person, he must initially feel that he came to this world as desired, and not because of the hidden motivations of his parents.
3. Willingness to change lifestyle
The decision to have a baby must be deliberate. A child is not a toy; you cannot take and give it away when you get bored. You must be ready for the appearance of another person in your life, with whom you will always need to reckon with and who will need to take care of for a long time.
With the advent of a child, life will completely change. Parents must be ready to be guided by the needs of their unborn child and fully tailor their lifestyle to the needs of the baby.
4. Material viability
This point has the most debate. The main argument: if everyone treated it this way, the birth rate would fall. But let's take off our rose-colored glasses and be honest with ourselves. Is material readiness really such a frivolous factor that it can be ignored? If we have already raised the topic of awareness, money is a resource that allows you to create a comfortable environment and take care of your future baby. And this is far from the least important factor. The kid requires care, decent living conditions, quality food and clothing. You must be ready to take full responsibility for the life of a defenseless creature, including material life.
5. Favorable emotional state of the mother
I have already said that the child's perception of reality depends on the woman. Children perceive the world through the state and emotions of the mother. Up to 12 (and especially up to 6 years old) they are associated with the mother with an invisible umbilical cord. If a woman at the time of conception and upbringing of a baby is in stress and is internally unstable, she will definitely pass these states on to her child.
In no case do I want to scare you and dissuade you from conceiving a child, because children are really great happiness. The main thing is to be aware of this responsibility and be ready to accept it. When we decide that we are ready to have children, it means that we have already become mature individuals and are able to devote part of our life to a small person. And if these things are obvious and natural to you, congratulations - most likely, you are a conscious person.
Interview and text: Olga Kulygina
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