Mom, Talk To Me: Why Is The Lack Of Communication With Parents Dangerous For A Child?

In recent years, psychologists have simply been trumpeting: our life on the run will in the end do us a disservice! We are losing touch within the family, and this is especially dangerous for our children.

“When there is support from loved ones, you can cope with any problem. This is especially important for a teenager, for whom relationships with family, the awareness that they hear you and your opinion is taken into account, is a fundamental moment of growing up. Modern children often lack live communication According to my observations, more than half of the children who come to our center admit that they lack communication in the family. As a result, their anxiety and aggression increase, self-esteem and school performance decrease, "says the psychologist of the family center" Origins "Yuri Telegin. And then he tells how to maintain this contact.

The main problem is the content of communication

Parents can every day be interested in the achievements of their children, their grades in school, the schedule of lessons. But they do not ask how the child feels, what he is worried about, what makes him happy, what worries him. It’s important not just to exchange a few phrases while walking to the store or preparing dinner. Make time for real conversations.

Also, the problem lies in numerous gadgets. The interlocutor is replaced by a mobile phone, tablet, computer.

But it is precisely by communicating in person that the child develops thinking, forms as a person. The degree of your closeness depends on the quality of communication.

I recently had the mother of ten-year-old Antonina at a reception. She complained that her daughter was a bad student, showed aggression, was not interested in anything. In the process of work, it became clear: the child simply did not have enough communication with his mother. The parents changed their behavior, and after six months, strong changes were noticeable in the girl.

How to understand that a child lacks communication

- He often does not feel well

- He has low self-esteem

- The child is in no hurry to go home after lessons or circles

- The child does not perceive adults as leaders (main)

- Nightmares, excessive stress during study, poor appetite, fearfulness and frequent tears - all these manifestations can be symptoms of an unstable psychological state and stress. Anxiety is an individual psychological feature that manifests itself in a person's tendency to often experience strong anxiety for relatively small reasons. It is difficult for a child to cope with anxiety. It is important for parents to notice the problem in time and seek professional help if needed.

Five steps to improve family communication

- Communicate on an equal footing, sincerely ask the opinion of the child and other family members.

- There must be understanding and acceptance in communication, because each family member has his own individual characteristics.

- Pay at least a little attention to each family member every day. Sometimes five minutes is enough for a frank conversation.

- Talk about your feelings and experiences more often, this will emphasize your trusting attitude towards each family member.

- Respect personal space.

- Do not hesitate to contact a psychologist if you feel that you yourself cannot cope.