Why does the child not obey his parents and how to learn to cope with his whims? Unfortunately, there are children with difficult characters in families, but this does not mean that you need to punish or scold for disobedience. The reason for this behavior lies in the child's special sensitivity and vulnerability. BeautyHack will tell you what to do with naughty children.
Trusting relationship
If the child is capricious, this is a signal that the baby simply needs to be listened to and understood, avoiding punishment and shouts from the parents. Ask your child what is bothering him, reveal the reason for disobedience and bad behavior. When the reason is clear, try to confidentially explain why you should not behave this way, and if necessary, let the child make decisions on his own.
It is especially important to build and maintain trusting relationships with children in adolescence, when the period of growing up begins, and how to accept this fact, read here.
Development of interests
Perhaps the child seems difficult due to a lack of encouragement or approval, then try to understand the interests of the baby and write it down in the appropriate section (but an excessive number of activities will not replace motherly love, read more here) or a circle.
Due to difficulties at work and household chores, the parent cannot always pay enough attention to the child, but the child can gain recognition from others by doing his favorite hobby, which means the hobby will bring him joy and good mood.
Remember that it is very important to support the baby in his endeavors, do not forget to encourage his achievements, but do not pamper - everything should be in moderation.
Parent reaction
If your baby begins to show signs of difficult behavior in the form of hysterical crying and protest against your rules, try to contain your reaction. Do not give in to childish provocations, do not show your emotions and do not raise your voice. The child will notice that his whims are indifferent to you and will calm down.
Remember that parents are an authority and an example for the child, so you need to behave accordingly, for example, to protect the baby from the scenes of clarification of the relationship between the parents. Stressful situations can lead to the fact that the child begins to withdraw into himself or bite his nails (you can learn how to wean him from a bad habit here).
Daily regime
The daily routine must be clear and must be followed by children - this approach will teach a difficult kid to discipline, and save you from his indignation. Be patient: the baby will not immediately get used to observing the regime, so be near him, let me help you with household chores.
Important: children should always be surrounded by the care and attention of their parents! Toddlers need to feel needed. If your child’s behavior worries you, simply identify the cause by talking calmly with him.
Another, no less important, reason is psychophysiological (congenital features in development) - in this case, you should consult a specialist.
Text: Diana Snetkova
