5 Phrases You Should Never Say. And "never" Among Them

The function of words in our lives is much more varied than we think. They serve not only as a means of verbal communication. Sometimes words take on the function of a weapon (a word can kill), sometimes a rescuer (a word can be saved), and sometimes a commander (a word can lead the regiments). I would add. Words and phrases often become the arbiters of our destinies. If, in certain situations, they are said at the wrong time, or if you are silent at all, everything turns upside down. “Thoughts are positive,” social media coaches urge us. The phrase is sane. Especially if you add action to your thoughts. But today we are not talking about positive thinking. Quite the opposite. I'll tell you about the phrases that spoil your life. Get rid of them and, perhaps, life will turn to face you tomorrow.

I can not

"You can, Fedya, you can!" I'll tell you a secret: not only Fedya can. This phrase needs to be sent to the dictionary trash right today. A person does not use the resource of his body even by 80%, which means that you have too much "fuel" to stop. “I can’t” is a phrase that, like a barrier, closes your entrance to a bright future, programming your brain to stop in action. After that, unconsciously, you begin to do everything so that you really do not succeed.

If, it was necessary to

If the wolf had no teeth, it would be a hare. No, it is very useful to analyze situations in order to avoid the same mistakes later. But you need to be able to stop in time, without self-flagellation and without leaving reality. How often do you conduct internal dialogues from the series "I should have told her" … You should have, but you did not. Stop wasting your energy in a war that you have already lost. The best ones start building reality and correcting mistakes with the word "when."

I can't count on anyone

This phrase appears in the majority after a negative experience. People have an amazing ability: to endow others with certain qualities after the first hour of communication. In 90% of cases, they may not actually appear, which means that disappointment awaits us. Our greatest suffering comes from our own expectations - a phrase that is difficult to argue with. Count on yourself, and if others are willing to join the takeover of the world, you're in luck.

Never

This word has too much stop potential to be used. Never is a signal to the brain that "under no circumstances" something will happen to you. You yourself put a period where the comma should be. Once I vowed never to marry again, putting a block in my personal life for as much as 7 years. Thanks to the psychologist who changed the tone of "never" to "everything will be."

I'm so unlucky

A word-brand that people most often put to themselves and still manage to wear it with pride. By programming yourself to fail, you are sure to attract it into your life. I remember how, as students, we were shaking before exams, and I always said: “With my“happiness”I will pull out those questions that I don’t know at all - I’m always unlucky.” And I did! Repeating this sad trick over and over again. And then she stopped, forcing her brain to work a little differently. Now I believe that luck is always with me - even in seemingly hopeless situations. And everything works out - believe me!