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March 8 is the perfect day to talk about self-love. So different - both outside and inside, but equally beautiful. Journalist Arina Kholina - about why we women have the right to disadvantages.
Most women learn very quickly that they cannot be supermodels. And don't be models either. And to be them the klugs, who are all bad. Because we … Well, we are thick, we have hair on our legs, we have such a build that either the stomach sticks out, or the sides stick out, and we also have stretch marks, pimples, moles, pimples, allergies, hair falls out, alas, not on our feet … In general, we would be caged and shown in the circus for food.
It was somehow hard to be a woman before. So many requirements.
God, how I hid my stretch marks. At 13, it stretched out 20 centimeters - and now live with it. How do they grow to their 180s and maintain a perfectly smooth body?
It turns out not.
So far, the "official" body positive assures us that 170 kg of weight is beauty, it is good, it is modern, different models have raised their wave - and imperfections are popping up on Instagram. One has no waist, the other has all the butt in striae.
Chrissy Teigan, super-supermodel, supermom and superwife, has been so energetic in her last year's stretch marks that I'm no longer afraid of mine.
Something has changed. The taboo may have been torn off like a plaster, but now it's good. We wrote more about how to become more self-confident here.
Nobody is ashamed of stretch marks. So they are photographed with them.
But age spots, this horror of any woman? Once a certain cosmetologist looked at me, looked, and then said: "You should have to whiten your skin …" This is because I have something brown and tiny after the rest appeared. By the way, I was 27 years old. And before the "buckwheat" I then and now still live and live.
And I'm not going to be afraid of her, by the way. Pigmented spots are like freckles. Oh, I knew many girls in my youth who hated freckles. Well, because “perfect” skin is even and smooth. And now freckles are in vogue. And spots too.
Well, yes, with age, the skin reacts less and less perfectly to the sun's rays, but there are a lot of very young people who are stained in the first days on the beach. And then everything levels out. Now vitiligo is no longer considered something special, and what can we say about all sorts of small specks. Our skin is alive, anything can happen to it, and this is no reason not to love yourself. Read 14 interesting science facts about leather here.
A friend, who at 50 looks 40 years old, has become allergic to the sun. And one day a woman comes up to her in a cafe and says: “I’m a beautician, you have such a problem, I couldn’t resist, come and I will bleach your skin”. A friend mumbled something, but, of course, did not go - she likes her skin even with spots, she does not feel it as something gloomy and foreign. And another friend decided to remove some stains - and now she is in burns, because the device was too powerful. And now think now which is worse.
In general, somehow everyone began to accept people with "imperfections" more calmly. There is so much writing these days about acne and its effects that people with pockmarks no longer look like victims. Well, it happened. I know both men and women who live like this all their lives and still remain beautiful. If a person takes care of himself, if he is pleasant, then it does not matter what happened to his skin. It is very good that now there are so many frank texts on this topic, the problem seems to have depreciated. Important information: all these brutal peels, after which a bloody mess on the face, help very badly. All the same, you need to do it five times, and the result will not be one hundred percent. It's easier to learn to live with it. And don’t believe anyone who says a regular fraxel will make things better.
It is very pleasant to live without these experiences. Bodypositive has now turned into some kind of tyranny, but everything started out great - just women spoke out for the fact that stores should not be limited to "average" sizes, that is, from 40th (Russian) to 46th (and this size is like as for "fat"). God, why do I have so many S things in my closet if I'm a normal M and is much more comfortable in it? And from there, that before everything was bought loose, such were the ideas of beauty. I have S, I am "small", hurray, damn it! No, I don’t give up and wear my eski (once paid), but I buy only M. Sometimes L is also - let it hang.
I am opposed to praising obesity, but our views have changed. We no longer consider bones covered with leather to be the norm, and on top - skin covered with clothes. Yes, you're skinny, so what? Rejoice, until the stomach ulcer is opened.
Now the average healthy and beautiful girl is just this extreme 46th size. And mind you, in the 2000s, we all thought that Jennifer Lopez had a huge ass, but now she does not stand out at all. The most ordinary ass (in terms of size). Here my ass does not fit into some dresses at all, I have to put it on over my head.
The idea of medium size and butts has changed. The horror that you once had to be skinny with two tennis balls instead of buttocks. Br-r-r.
The trick is that all these changes happened quickly and not very noticeably, but - bam! - and you are already lying on the beach, legs spread freely, and do not squeeze them in a panic that someone will notice your stretch marks, spots and other terrible imperfections.
Rather, I am in favor of taking care of yourself, maintaining beauty, but worrying about some irreversible things is fruitless efforts and self-flagellation.
It seems to me that we are fully entitled to shortcomings (because we are not plastic), and some other people, whether they are even editors, even marketers, even a sylph from the legal department with her huge diamond and super-ideal fiancé do not have a tiny right judge us for these minor imperfections. And most importantly, do not say anything like that with your mouth, so that we begin to judge ourselves.
Yes, we are weak. We are easily confused. If the beautician looks at us strangely and says that it's time to inject fillers into our cheeks, because it will raise them, then, of course, we think that all our cheeks are drooping and, in general, this is already menopause, and we are walking the last days.
I don't want to hear that. I didn't know anything about cheeks, I liked myself. And now I’m thinking: maybe I could stuff the napkins there, like Marlon Brando in The Godfather? Why did I know this? I lived and rejoiced!
Alas, it takes me time and an effort of will to put … Yes, ignore these comments and then deliberately publish on Instagram photos without filters - take what is, with cheeks without fillers, with stretch marks and with spots. And to never even think about all this at all. In order to see in the mirror not spots and something that requires lifting, but a woman who I like, a woman who smiles happily and enjoys herself.
Text: Arina Kholina
