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How can you learn to forgive, express your emotions correctly, and develop strong, healthy relationships? Books will prompt! Psychologist Natalya Bychkova gave her recommendations and told how this literature would be useful.
Natalia Bychkova
Certified psychologist, specialist in the field of family psychology, coach of anti-stress programs and personal growth programs
Today, there are too many specialists who claim to be experts / psychologists / coaches and who believe that a mandatory attribute of their success is the release of their own book. Therefore, when choosing such literature, pay attention to the author - it is important to understand from what position and from what experience knowledge is transmitted to you. I advise you to start your study of relationship psychology with proven bestsellers - sometimes from a whole book, just one sentence can affect your breadth of vision or help you understand a certain situation.
Can such literature help? Yes, but the time, place, and circumstance must coincide. If a person is ready to admit new knowledge, then the likelihood of receiving insights from him is greater - his potential has been activated, and perception at a given moment in time has increased. And if a woman is under stress, her energy level is depleted, she is simply not able to perceive something new - she will reject, resist and question everything. Everything is very individual!
I believe that it is better to get acquainted with this literature in a calm state of mind and, most importantly, do not wait for ready-made solutions, but simply think, simulate situations, try them on in your life and remember that we are all different. But as a psychologist, I think most books about relationships fall into the read-and-forget category. Even from classical literature, you can sometimes learn much more about the psychology of relationships. And if I turn to such books, then only to those where knowledge is given from a source - spiritually advanced people. I recommend them to you.
"Radical Forgiveness", K. Tipping
"Everything we condemn in others is actually what we curse in ourselves."
In order to move on in life, you need to learn to forgive, let go of the past, and accept the situation. Everyone knows about it. It would seem that it could be easier - to accept the situation as it is? But in order to do this, you first need to forgive. So the author of the book, Colin Tipping, suggests doing this in a simple way (and you will learn about how to treat people in order to be less nervous here).
“Radical Forgiveness” is absolutely not difficult and is written in accessible language, it can even be used in a game format to learn how to free yourself from the past. The main thing is to tune in to reading this book, and then in it you will find an invaluable and effective method of forgiveness - parents, friends, bosses, colleagues, anyone else.
"About women", Osho
"The woman first repels the man's attacks, and then cuts off his escape route."
Although the book was written by an enlightened man, a spiritual mystic, its language is extremely simple. But you can see a woman through the eyes of a man: Osho elevates her, speaks of her potential, equality and in some way even her dominant role. A woman's self-esteem (about her - here) has been underestimated for centuries, but after reading it takes off! Osho's main task was to dispel the myth that a man is more important than a woman, and to explain how important it is to take care of the soul.
Men, in principle, are worried that we do not take the leading role, because by nature we have more emotions, intuition is better developed. Because of this, they compete with us to some extent. I recommend it for reading, first of all, for transformation, general development and a better understanding of oneself.
"About feelings", Osho
“Love is a feeling on a subconscious level - you don't know what to do with it. What is happening on the subconscious level is ten times stronger than what is happening on the conscious. It just deafens. This is why people are afraid of feelings."
I advise you to read another book by Osho - On Feelings. We all live with repressed emotions and impressions that have gone far into the subconscious and are simply repressed. You need to revive and show your emotions, otherwise they will turn into a time bomb. This book just helps to understand the nature of our mind, to find out what sadness, happiness, anger, shame are.
Osho also talks about the mechanics of the mind: about how to show your emotions, about sex, about obsession and its boundaries. Moreover, the book is useful not only for us, women, but also for men - it describes love in a very innovative and provocative way. The main idea is that we live more and more by the intellect and less often turns to female intuition, that is, to our heart. Through the book we live and try on the experiences of the author and revive our heart. For people who are ready to think big, this is a very valuable knowledge.
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, J. Gray
“Women can quite often“read the minds”of other women because they are very similar. Likewise, men can accurately "read" the thoughts of other men. But when both men and women try to read each other's thoughts, trouble is inevitable."
Everyone has probably heard about this book - it has been on the market for a long time. I would recommend reading it to anyone who wants mutual understanding and good relationships. The author here well exposes the problematic and describes real problems from the lives of men and women - everything is close to reality.
“Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” is also written in simple language and reveals the secrets of proper behavior in the family. But I would recommend reading it not only to married girls who want healthier and stronger relationships, but also to those who have not yet met their love. It will be easier - I guarantee!
Text: Anastasia Speranskaya
