We asked a psychologist to speculate about our genetic fears that force us to participate in a flash mob against the "lovemaker".
Elena Sadykova
Psychologist
Background for those who are not yet in the gaga-chat (this is what the commentators call themselves, who staged a bacchanalia on Lady Gaga's instagram). Actor Bradley Cooper lived in a civil marriage with Irina Shayk, a model of Russian origin. There is a daughter, Leia. And after the film "A Star Is Born", where Gaga starred in the title role, the leading actors had a romance.
Suddenly, the Russians were the most upset. And in revenge for the mistress Gaga, they wrote her 600 thousand (!!!) comments on Instagram. In Russian. At first they called them insulting words, and then they began a parade of wild wit - recipes for stuffed cabbage and comic ads for the sale of a garage were used. Even Russian stars could not resist and scribbled a couple of lines about the release of a new video or some news.
Shayk's profile is the same, only with a focus on empathy. Like, Irinka, you are a beauty, and he traded you for a kikimora. Hold on, we are with you.
What's wrong with it?
The first is cyberbullying. Round trip. Gaga's humor is aggression, only more socially approved. And Irina certainly does not need this obsessive support. Let's say she's in pain after breaking up. The last thing in this situation you want to be discussed, in fact, endlessly reminding: “Hey, he left you with a child! Disgraced in front of everyone!"
Secondly, we just really need her to suffer, and we protect her. This scenario is in our blood, you remember Russian folk tales, there it never does without victims and offenders. And Shayk - she was originally a Russian Cinderella, a poor girl from Chelyabinsk Emanzhelinsk, conquered all these Hollywood and Los Angeles. Found the prince. And suddenly - the insidious Baba Yaga, a homeless woman. Painted, of course, as in yet another plot beloved by Russians. Only there my husband returned, happy ending, and here there is no one even to stand up for Irina (we have to close the gestalt!). I had to take on this role. Punished as best they could.
We got our dose of catharsis (“cleansing”, in a clever way), worked through fears that the mechanism of justice would suddenly break in the world, our men would rush off to the actresses, and Cinderellas would no longer receive awards of fate in accordance with virtues.
Only this, my dears.
There is generally no information about who left whom. We know Irina moved out of Cooper's mansion - that's all. By the way, according to statistics, most often a woman is the initiator of a break.
Maybe Shayk fell in love and decided to leave Cooper? Maybe they lived together, the hormones subsided and the ideal image of a lover "turned into a pumpkin"? Ira grew cold, Cooper found solace from Gaga. How do you like this version?
And after all, they could very well meet with the singer in secret. Men generally do not like to surrender conquered territories, even when new ones appear.
And here's the jarring thing: we treat Bradley like an object. Gaga LEADED him!
She bewitched, drugged, bewitched, as befits a fabulous evil. But how do you imagine it? Did you sneak in at night, untie the battery and run away? It was his choice anyway.
Irina left, left the space and the person that had ceased to interest her. The beginning of a new wonderful stage of life … But no - no one even allows such an option. We don't want to destroy the scenarios of the collective consciousness. Dangerously. You never know.
The point is that we (identified with Irina) like to be offended by America (represented by Gaga). We are looking for a reason to be offended and to conflict.
If you look at this from the point of view of psychohistory (there is such a discipline), then mentally our peoples in terms of development are cocky teenagers. America is too young a nation, did not have time to "mature". Russia periodically “zeroes out” and also cannot get out of puberty: now it is forcibly baptized, then revolution, then perestroika, we are endlessly born again. And in immature individuals, conflicts are usually neurotic, infantile.
And you know what? It's good that this aggression finds a way out in sports, politics and in the comments of Lady Gaga on Instagram.
So forgive me, Irina Shayk, we will pity you and poison Gaga until you find a new fiancé. This is how we are made.
