They lived happily ever after and died on the same day. As a rule, many people have the same understanding of family life as described in fairy tales: something magical, pleasure and joy. Unfortunately, this is not so. In order to succeed in some business, you need to immerse yourself in its specifics and understand in detail each of its components. Also in relationships: you should not jump into the pool with your head, making hasty decisions about marriage, but clearly, with a head approach to the issue of marriage and cohabitation, because "then" is not always smooth and sweet, so you need to agree "on shore ". We will tell about the main misconceptions of women about family life together with psychologist Kristina Gribova. Now he's mine and all his time is mineA very common mistake girls make when they believe that marriage is a guarantee that now a man is your property and a step away from you! All weekend together: to the store and to my mother with me too. Hence the frequent conflicts on the topic of either friends or me. Limiting and not allowing a man to meet on business and with friends is not worth it, you must trust him and give him an opportunity for personal affairs. If you have doubts and distrust, then it is worth considering the necessity of this relationship.
Marriage is the key to a long, happy lifeThere are different situations in life that will test both of you for strength. How do you feel about each other's weaknesses, are you ready to put up with the everyday and everyday imperfections of the second half, lies, misunderstanding and other problems. It is sweet only at the very beginning, at the moment of the inception of a relationship, all the most interesting lies ahead. Therefore, you should not reassure yourself that your bright feelings and passion will last for many years. The ability to give in, endure, compromise and not infrequently step on the throat of one's interests in favor of a loved one is the basis of a long and strong relationship. Children will save relationshipsIt often happens that relationships remain at the same level and there is no development in them. People are comfortable with each other, they do not want to change anything, they are often simply afraid. Then the artificial cultivation of the illusion of well-being begins through the appearance of children. Children will appear, and everything will be completely different. It won't. If the two of you feel bad, from the appearance of a third person, your relationship will not get better. Change it and redo itI will definitely remake it for myself, and he will do as I tell him. Another misconception. It is very difficult to change another person, and sometimes it is simply impossible. If some character traits or behavioral features do not suit you in a man, be sure that they are unlikely to disappear somewhere after marriage. The only one to whom you can express a desire to change is only yourself. Always start with yourself. This is a simple rule: first change the order of your actions in relation to another person, and you will see that he will also answer them differently. A happy marriage is not fairy tales and inventions, but reality. But this reality needs to be built day by day, step by step. The appearance of a loved one in your life, in addition to warm and pleasant moments, will also be filled with disappointments, for which you need to be prepared. If you are not afraid of difficulties, are ready to both grow and develop your relationship, give in and find compromises - your family ties will be the strongest, and you will be happy.