BeautyHack columnist Tatyana Yakimova says that eyes do not fade as beautifully as hair, and life is a struggle, first of all, with oneself.
At the end of summer, I like to see how beautifully the curls of children have faded. And women who do not go to a colorist (however, there are fewer of them now). And yesterday I suddenly noticed that not only hair is fading.
Late in the morning. There are not very many people on the subway. Opposite me sits a still young, quite handsome man with eyes that seem to have lost their color. Anemic, my doctor would say. It looks so sad that I urgently start looking around in search of someone "with a burning gaze" - and I can't find it. There are no children, no lovers, no athletes, no simple optimists who do not care - the main representatives of the bright-eyed breed.
Only one woman, who notices me twisting my head to both sides, is curious and her eyes brighten.
But not for long.
What is this epidemic? Is it a crisis, personal problems for the whole carriage, general weather dependence, or is the metro operating so badly?
And I immediately remember the song "Agatha Christie" - "My dream has faded eyes" …
It is normal for the eyes to fade in old age. But not all and not always.
The eighty-two-year-old actress Judy Dench has them lighter than they were in their youth - and they shine! Because the makeup is correct, there is a boyfriend of her age, interesting roles (only this year, three premieres with her participation), and most importantly - character. The late husband said that Judy is "the one who rides a horse towards the light." Of course, the Oscar-winning actress does not ride the Moscow metro, but this does not mean that she is unfamiliar with problems and sorrows. At the first screen test, she heard: "Your face is a complete nightmare", she became a star at the age of 60 thanks to Bondiana, and today she is almost blind and cannot read.
So age, of course, plays a role, but not decisive.
Burnt-out eyes are a sign of woeful fatigue, a protracted conflict with the world, broken hopes, a series of failures and simply a pessimistic view of the world. Eyes fade when a person gives up. He can be smart, kind, beautiful externally and internally, but without an inner core, with which it is easier to go through real troubles and not burn out over trifles. Although even this core does not guarantee a temporary feeling of collapse.
Once I was betrayed and set up by a wonderful, beautiful, faithful and now a friend. Instead of an apology, he said without much remorse that "it was not meanness, although in fact it was meanness." And then my eyes seemed to bleed. I looked into the abyss, where friends pay with evil for good, cunning people use the simple-minded, the weak pull the veins from the strong, the unprincipled give their word of honor, and then they say: well, they couldn't. Terrible moments. But if you believe that the world is like that, then you’re lost. Something in yourself will first become discolored, then wither and die - if you will, of course. At such moments, it is very important to remember the people who helped you in difficult times, any happy events in your life and, in general, everything that you have created.
It helps. Although it takes a lot of energy. But I do not want and will not think about the damage caused to me. This is just a life lesson - period.
But I will never strongly advise those who have looked into the abyss, calm down and lie down with a relaxing compress (or eat squid). Will not help.
Cry from the imperfection of the world, and then find in yourself a healthy anger to resist it. Because the slogan "Don't give up!" Are the alpha, beta and omega of our life. Dull eyes are not for us. Like chips, and even those with an expired date!)))
Burnout can be reversed. When I massage my eighty-year-old mom's head, her eyes instantly brighten. This is a miracle and it is true: we have just been gray and suddenly - bam! - blue. Even grandmothers who sell near the metro can shine if you give them three times more than they ask for a bunch of green onions or an old book. But they saw so much injustice in life that we never dreamed of.
Eyes always light up with love, it doesn't matter if you give or receive, although both are best, of course. From a smile and curiosity. From new knowledge. From beauty, nature, music. From gifts and gifts.
And from makeup. Judy Dench doesn't use purple and pink shades, plus mascara and black eyeliner, without fanaticism.
Speaking of squid. Seafood is really good for eye color. Just like carrots can change skin color, spinach can enhance eye color. And onions, oddly enough.
The eyes definitely become brighter from physical exertion. Therefore, I often make an effort on myself when I need to do something - from exercising for the back to working in the garden. The body resists for the first seconds - but then it rejoices. And for a dance warm-up and effort is not needed!
The right outfit also plays a role. I'm new to selling clothes, and my Hygge second hand is not really about clothes, but rather about style, communication, atmosphere and reasonable consumption. But I already know that the right thing seems to illuminate the image. It is especially pleasant to observe this on a tired dull aunt who came in from nothing to do, burdened with gloomy thoughts and bags of provisions, and tried on a dress - and seemed to have thrown off a dozen years and the same amount of kg. And she smiles at once, and her eyes are awesome.
In general - we do not give up, people !!! The eyes, no matter how trite it sounds, are the mirror of the soul. Who wants to live with a burnt out soul? Not us.
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