BeautyHack columnist Tatyana Yakimova talks about why not every girl should be strong.
Between wonderwoman and Cinderella, nine out of 10 girls will choose the first one. A modern lady must be strong! And in my opinion, not every one.
Sometimes I read interviews with media people who are not very interesting to me. Just out of curiosity. What? An aspiring pop star is able to amaze with worldly wisdom, and a well-deserved TV presenter - with an open mind, like a child's. And if one of them helps abandoned dogs, this is immediately my idol.
But God, how some of the young stars like to call themselves strong! However, with reservations: I have to be strong. I'm tired of being strong (ha, it's twenty-something). I have not met a man who was stronger than me. But I am strong, strong, you already understand?
No, they didn't understand.
They only understood that you want to seem like that. And to seem is not to be. Although these beauties cannot be denied endurance and determination.
But … There are no strong personalities who boast - excuse this word - with their strength.
Who are they, strong women? For them - objectively - life is easier, because for a strong character, many life problems are just tasks that need to be solved, and not at all a reason for panic.
They also know how to work. It doesn't matter if in a glossy magazine or in a poultry factory, a janitor or a top manager, a fashion designer or a breeder, an actor or a manicurist - they work honestly and cool. Strength is clearly felt and often overwhelming. It just needs to be implemented. And constantly grow and develop. The only way.
They do something because they cannot help doing. They have no problems with unrealized potential (which I would like to talk about separately).
A strong woman sees the goal and stubbornly moves towards it, but not necessarily with leaps and bounds. It happens that a step forward is two steps back. With varying success and unforeseen difficulties. In general, like everyone else. Just not turning out of the way.
And she also needs to "let off steam" from time to time, because only a robot can always go through life with clenched teeth and a head held high. Sure. proud posture is our everything. But if suddenly an inexorable desire to breathe and hunch over rushes over - do it. Only without witnesses and not for long. For a very short time.
And here, let's talk about weakness.
The strength or weakness of the nervous system is an innate indicator. Another thing is that a lot of things can shake her, including yourself. But some have a powerful backup substation in their genes, while others have a very flimsy one.
Therefore, weak is not synonymous with lazy.
Feminine weakness has its own charm. Was Cinderella strong? Of course not. Otherwise, she would have wiped her stepmother with her nasty daughters into powder. And the fireplace would be cleaned at the behest of the heart, not by order. I wouldn’t sing plaintively: “Only now, the years will pass, I cannot get away from the ash and soot”. And there would be no favorite fairy tale of my childhood. When all the girls in a row wanted to be like Cinderella.
What about fairy princesses? They are capricious, often disgusting and domineering, but in reality they are all weak. One with a pea under three feather beds does not sleep all night, the second is kicked out of the palace of her family - just to spit, the third, on the contrary, was returned home by force, and she plays the harpsichord in protest - instead of starting a revolution!
But still, little girls want to be princesses. And rightly so.
And girls over twenty dream of themselves as Wonderwoman.
It's good that not all.
Dear princesses and Cinderella, do not feel that you have to be strong. What all people really need, regardless of their vital energy level, is to be decent and "relaxed". Well, it is in your best interest to eat right, keep in mind a list of foods that give energy, and not take it away.
It is believed that enduring fate is the lot of the strong, sobbing from her slaps is the lot of the weak.
But after all, the pain threshold is different for everyone, gentlemen.
Yes, a strong person is more forgiven. If a strong woman lives with an alcoholic or drug addict, then she is trying to save. Weak - because the nag.
Nevertheless, in life, the strong, alas, are reptiles, and the weak are kind and loyal. And very often power is simply an unconscious experience of reality.
Here are two examples.
I had a friend-namesake of such fortitude that one could die of envy or simply pray for her, if not for one "but". She despised people so weak and imperfect compared to her. Coldness smelled from her. Any emotion crashed against her armor. The guys even invented a joke about her: “I asked Tanya if she knew at least one warm word. She looked, shrugged her shoulders and answered: "Fur coat?"
And in the past editorial life there was a young colleague - as they say, "eyes in a wet place." I could cry with or without reason. She often walked sad, smiled with strength, looked somewhere into the distance. I was very tired by the end of the day. She was ashamed of her weakness. I dreamed of going in for sports, but my back hurt all the time. I was afraid to treat my back. So she walked in a vicious circle.
However, she could:
So retell the content of the film that everyone urgently wanted to see this film
So write about a resort where you have never been, as if you had just returned from there.
So cheap to wear things that they looked expensive.
And also get up at seven in the morning and leave the house at exactly half past seven, not a minute later
And she is very truthful. We remember the words of Danila Bagrov “Strength is in truth”. For example, I can tell a lie (but at the same time I put my hand in my pocket and fold my fingers crosswise, because I understand that lying is not good). And she couldn't.
Here is such a weak woman with her strength.
What really is an unforgivable weakness?
The habit of changing decisions often. If you are approached with a request or an assignment, it is better to say right away: "I have to think" (this, by the way, is difficult only the first time), than to agree to something, then suffer all night, and the next day with longing in your eyes report what I thought and changed my mind. This behavior is not criminal, but leaves a residue and makes you think of you as an unreliable person.
The inability to keep other people's secrets. It is difficult for a person with a weak nervous system to hold information in himself. It exonerates half of the gossips, but not your reputation. Once you start, you will want to continue, and as a result, gossip can become a drug for you, and you for people - someone who cannot be trusted and in general it is better to stay away.
Sedentary lifestyle. Yes, nerves, like muscles, get stronger from physical activity, so moving and exercising is very important.
"Twisting" yourself in any trouble. It is harmful for everyone, but especially for you: you simply spend your inner resources on internal disassembly, and you will remain like a squeezed lemon.
Once a clever man told me that everyone should have their own tea. Decoctions of wild rose, lemon balm, motherwort, valerian are suitable for a weak nervous system. It seems simple, but it helps.
Well, don't whine, of course! It's not even discussed. Whining is generally not a sign of weakness, but of spiritual licentiousness. Different things.
In general, the most powerful people are those who respect honor. Sorry for the old-fashioned style. And how many weaknesses they have - it doesn't matter. Because these people can be trusted.