From time immemorial, a woman served as a kind of fairway for a man. The ability to direct a man in the right direction, gently change the vector of his following in order to help him reach his goal, intuitively understand what a loved one is doing wrong, and help him understand the situation from the point of view of intuition, not logic … This is why men value women. It is these women that successful and influential people choose as life companions. But how do you learn how to properly motivate your beloved man? How to quietly raise his self-esteem and convey that he is capable of a lot, his potential is inexhaustible? These and other questions are answered by Julia Lanske, love-coach number 1 in the world at the recognition of the American iDate Awards.
Julia Lanske
Love-coach number 1 in the world by the American iDate Awards
Hello! I am a female coach and an expert in finding the perfect couple for marriage and relationships, the author of an effective algorithm for a happy marriage, and just a happy wife and mother. My many years of experience have helped hundreds of women find their happiness and marry for love a successful man. Today I will try to help you too. So let's talk about motivation. There are 5 main rules that will help you bring your beloved man to Olympus of success.
Compliment
Do not believe those who say that men love only with their eyes. No, they, like us, want to hear praise, approval and compliments. Knowing how his beloved appreciates him, he straightens his shoulders, confidently looks ahead and systematically moves towards the goal. When you tell the chosen one that he is the best / successful / charming, you literally fill his sails with the wind. Knowing that a reliable rear awaits him at home, a man is able to move mountains.
Even if for a minute it seemed to you that your man was doing something wrong, do not rush to tell him about it, and even more so do not take the situation "with hostility." Assume that in a particular case you may be wrong. Trust your beloved, because the "leader of the pack" is he. So it was laid by nature.
Cherish the dream
Every person has a dream, and men are no exception. It's just that by their nature they are rather logics, therefore they call dreams goals. Does your loved one want to buy you a house? Perfectly! Dreaming of a new motorcycle? Also good! Support his endeavors, do not chop off the wings of a dream. For more information on what needs to be done to make dreams come true, we wrote here.
Remember how your mother didn't buy you a coveted doll as a child? Today you can afford hundreds of such toys, but that same doll from childhood remained unattainable … So for men - they light up with a goal and go to it with leaps and bounds, but only if their plan is supported by their beloved women. “Why do you need a motorcycle? You will kill yourself! ", - and that's it, another dream remained a dream, and he began to doubt himself.
No matter how difficult it may be for you to accept his stupid, in your opinion, dream, try to find words of support that will inspire him. Otherwise, the "worm of doubt", which will certainly settle in him, will stop him next time, for example, at a responsible meeting. He simply will not express his opinion, as a result, he will not receive a promotion and will start moving, only now - in the opposite direction … Remember: a woman who supports a man in all his endeavors becomes the closest person to him. And that woman who rejects his every idea, he can hardly call a friend, moreover - to live with her for many years.
Common desires
Let him love Moscow, and you love Paris, but in your relationship there should be points of contact. It is not for nothing that they say that in a pair, lovers should not look at each other, but in one direction. This is more important for a man than for a woman, because thinking logically, and not figuratively, he must clearly understand the further plan for the development of your union. A man who sees that his beloved shares his plans for further life together will do everything to make them a reality.
Discuss the future with your partner. Depending on the stage in the relationship, you can talk about long-term prospects or just make plans for the weekend. Both are extremely important for a man - this gives him a reason to think that you see your union in a year / two / ten years. Try to accidentally tell him that in six months you need to make an appointment with the dentist - let him remind him if he does not forget. A simple, at first glance, phrase will strengthen his faith in you and the longevity of your relationship.
Be an example to follow
One of the mistakes in female behavior is to demand without giving anything in return. A woman can explain to a man many times how she wants to see him, but this will not bring results if she herself does not begin to change for the better. Constant "marking time" demotivates a man. He notices that his chosen one does nothing for self-development and harmonization of relations, and subconsciously he himself begins to go with the flow. “Why do I need a director's position? There, my Alenka still works as a secretary and does not complain."
Remember - next to a successful man there is always a worthy woman, because like attracts like. The realization of harmonious relationships is possible only after inner transformation, so start with yourself. Sign up for yoga, finally learn English, master the macrame technique … You will see - your work on yourself will motivate him to move forward. We wrote here about how to become more self-confident.
Love
It would seem that it is so simple, because you already love him, and he knows about it. But love for a man is not just words. It is important to learn to give yourself to him, to dissolve in his eyes, to feel love with every fiber of the soul, to the point of creeping. Women's love is the warmth of the hearth, support and support in difficult moments, this is a complete understanding and trust in your chosen one. Men feel this kind of love at the cellular level. For women who really love, they are ready to give all of themselves and the whole world to boot. Try to find a balance between the role of "mother" and "selfish". Do not forget about your own integrity, while surrounding him with care - as only a loving woman can do.
Remember that any motivation must have a long-term perspective. Try to navigate your "love boat" smoothly, avoiding sharp corners and avoiding storms. Inspire your loved one for deeds, let him feel like a real superhero next to you. After all, when a man, thanks to a woman who motivates him, becomes the best version of himself, he begins to love her even more and more reverently.
I, Julia Lanske, wish your relationship a fair wind and a clear, cloudless sky. Walk towards your goals together, hand in hand, and make your life happiest. Subscribe to my Instagram and Youtube channel for even more helpful tips on building harmonious lifelong relationships.
